Bridget Wright

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Going to a California business school was something that I always knew I would do when I graduated from high school. When I was young, very young, I had aspirations to get a business degree, travel the country and to see the world!! Oh the dreams that I had. Well, one day reality set in, brought some bills with it, and I saw that it wasn’t as easy as it sounded. At that time, I had a sister who lived in California, had graduated from a Southern California university, so I was going to go and live with her. I had plans to leave the south, become “citified” and see the world. Ha! The dreaming part was fun, until my sister put me to the challenge and told me to come and live with her in California for the summer. I accepted the challenge.

The first couple of weeks, I had a blast living the L.A. lifestyle, cruising the beaches, shopping, eating out and just having fun. When we started to look at the Los Angeles university list, that’s when reality hit home. The colleges in California were good, extremely good, and I saw where I had A LOT of work to do on my grades if I ever had ideas of going to school there.

Well, my big sister (who by the way is a teacher), tried her best to keep from saying, “told you so”, but she did manage to not say it as she gently guided me along the path to getting my grades solid enough to seriously think about coming to California. That time of my life was when I learned that the difference in doing something and thinking something is w-o-r-k-ing towards it to make it happen.

Going to school and getting a degree is very important, one of the most important things you will ever do in life. Having fun is important too! But, the most important thing that I learned that summer was not only to have fun (which I did manage to do!), but to work hard, stay focused and not get distracted. My sister spent a summer helping me see those things and for that, I’m forever grateful. Thanks sis!

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How can a person stay motivated despite what’s going on around them? I’m a pretty motivated person, but I’ve found it slightly challenging in the last few days to stay positive with so much going on in my personal and professional life. The main thing that is annoying me personally though is the fact that I can’t run! It’s been over six weeks for me, and I still have like five or six more weeks to go. And to top all of that off, I think I either re-fractured or re-injured my toe in some sort of way the other night. It’s puffy and swollen, but not discolored, so I don’t know what’s really going on. I’m due for a doctor’s follow-up visit in a week, so I’ll have a better idea then.

In the meantime, I’ve managed to motivate myself by trying to look at the things that I CAN do versus the things that I CANNOT do. Yes, I can’t run. There, I said it. But I do love spinning, so I’ve decided to take the gym’s spin classes during my recuperation period until the doctor says I CAN run again. That will give me a new (temporary) focus, help me control my weight and strengthen those vital muscles you need when you run. I just hope I can stay motivated until this time period is up. We’ll see how things go. What do you think?

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Living for Change

That’s the motto I’ve embraced in the last few weeks. I’ve realized how important it is to keep things moving along, especially and more importantly when it’s in a positive direction. Keep your life, your goals, your thinking moving ahead progressively in all facets of your life.

Sometimes, things occur in our lives that are troubling and hurtful. That’s a part of life. It happens and there’s often not a whole lot that we can do about it. Whether we are directly responsible for it or not, whatever has occurred can have an impact on your life. Only YOU have the power to determine just how deep the effect will be. In other words, you cannot play the victim and cry “why me, why me” and not completely understand the situation and your role in it all.  Sometimes you simply have to realize that it is what it is and you have to make a decision to either 1.) make the best of it or 2.) move along.

The Victim?

I’ve had some things happen to me in the last couple of months that have really hurt me and have negatively affected my life. I’m a pretty upbeat, positive girl, so when bad things happen to me, it takes me a bit to get my bearings back. You know the whine…”I treat everybody right. Why does this always happen to me? What did I do wrong?” Yada, Yada, Yada. Even though we may treat folks right, that doesn’t always mean they’re going to treat you right in return.

At the moment of my hurt, I felt very much like a victim. I was completely oblivious to the circumstances of the occurrence that hurt me so bad, but nevertheless, I was affected. I tried to confront the situation, to no avail. I tried to forget about it, again, no luck. I know how it feels to have things happen to you and there is no explainable reason for the “why.” No matter how many times you turn it over and over in your mind, it comes up short and confusing. Has that ever happened to you? That’s when you know it’s time to move on.

Know Your Limits

Being a victim is not always the best role to play. When you are a victim, you ARE a victim, but every situation is not something where someone is “doing” something to you. Not cute. I’m not taking anything away from people who have really been victimized in situations that are true. Although in my situation, I did feel like a victim (actually I was), but I’ve decided to make an alternate decision. My choice today is to not continue to go over and over it in my mind trying to make sense of it. Neither will I continue to replay it and see what it was that I “did” or “said” that could have caused it to happen. It just is.

My decision today is simply to move on. I blogged a couple of weeks ago about a lifestyle purge and that’s where this situation fits in. Many people may say that you shouldn’t allow others to dictate your actions. I agree. But since you can’t change people you have to change yourself. And in this case, I’m making a decision to change myself. I made a conscientious decision years ago to live a peaceful life and to live peaceably among others, so when there’s a peace-less situation going on, I decide to distance myself from it, the circumstance, places and any people involved.

Am I running away?

Am I giving up?

No, I think not. I am simply deciding to live in peace with no drama, stress, pressure or conflict. Trust me, I’m a big girl and can handle my business, but there are some situations that don’t deserve your mental or physical energy. Removing yourself from negativity serves you better than trying to make it all make sense and come together. Who has that kind of time? Life is too short and there are too many moments to enjoy rather than spending them trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. You feel me?

What are your thoughts? Have you ever experienced any hurtful situations where you had the courage and foresight to walk away? Do share!

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